Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Happy birthday dear friend, for the 30th time!

Thirty years ago this week, I entered as a freshman at the American University. Following yet another summer as a camp counselor, I hopped in the car with mom and dad to drive from Boston to DC. I don’t remember much about the trip, except we stopped in Brooklyn to visit my grandmother who was in the hospital (and then dad showed me the location of the family bakery – building still intact – at Coney Island and O). We made our way to the nation’s capitol, and stayed overnight in nearby suburban Virginia. We spent time with my aunt Enid, visiting her son Tommy who lived and worked locally, and spent an eve celebrating her birthday at a French dinner-burlesque show (only slightly awkward for an eighteen year-old with his parents). Of course most important was finally moving onto campus, finding my way to my room in Letts Hall, the dorm – oops, I mean “residence hall” – that I would call home for my first three years at school.
Mixing and mingling with the other new and returning students, I was introduced to one fellow freshman whose friendship I cannot overemphasize to this day. Scott and I met as (myopic yet) wide-eyed newbies at the introductory meeting led by the RA on our floor. We hit it off right away, and now seem to have accomplished a great majority of life’s deeds together: from intramural soccer and softball and student activities to movie nights with Armand’s Pizza and pining over girls, and yes even successfully navigating our course work – I had a friend and partner through the ups and downs of college life. We’ve shared holidays and family time, both as young adult sons in our families of origin as well as being husbands and fathers ourselves. Scott schlepped to Minnesota for our wedding at the end of one very cold December; I had the privilege of officiating at his wedding another memorable weekend in Erie, PA. We’ve visited and shared, watched (and marveled) as we became parents, and our children continue to grow…
And yes, that week we met, also coincided with Scott’s birthday – which he’ll again celebrate this week. So we celebrate 30 years since first meeting that fateful day at AU – I wish you all the best now and always. Happy birthday Scotty – you’ll always be Senor Smoke.

Friday, August 21, 2015

If I were a bell...

What's your favorite single note in any song?

What? What kind of question is that? It's hard enough to think about favorite single musicians, or songs, or even genres. Favorite single note?

Well, for me, at least at the moment, my favorite single note is the ringing guitar chime at the opening of "The Kids are Alright." It's just so filled with energy, possibility, and the appropriate amount of angst. One resounding blast, followed by the plaintive lyrics...

I don't mind other guys dancing with my girl
That's fine, I know them all pretty well
But I know sometimes I must get out in the light
Better leave her behind with the kids, they're alright
The kids are alright

Sometimes, I feel I gotta get away
Bells chime, I know I gotta get away
And I know if I don't, I'll go out of my mind
Better leave her behind with the kids, they're alright
The kids are alright

I guess just another way to say, well, if I were a bell I'd go ding dong, ding dong ding.



Friday, August 7, 2015

Consuming our fill

Toward the opening of this week’s passage, we find the verse that is customarily held to be the basis for reciting birkat hamazon – the traditional blessing after meals:
For the Lord your God is bringing you into a good land, a land with streams and springs and fountains issuing from plain and hill; a land of wheat and barley, of vines, figs, and pomegranates, a land of olive trees and honey; a land where you may eat food without stint, where you will lack nothing; a land whose rocks are iron and from whose hills you can mine copper. When you have eaten your fill, give thanks to the Lord your God for the good land which He has given you (Deuteronomy 8:7-10, JPS translation).
Usually we pay most attention only to the last line – v’achalta v’savata uveyrachta et Adonai elohekha – “When you have eaten your fill, give thanks to the Lord your God…” If this were only to indicate our obligation to recite thanks for our dietary sustenance, our understanding is insufficient; the paragraph refers to ALL the bounty of the Promised Land – natural resources, nourishing foods, precious metals – that is, the entire range of what we need to flourish and succeed. This in mind, we should read the passage as “when you have *consumed* your fill,” as consumption is much broader than eating alone. Consequently, this also broadens our responsibility to express gratitude for what we have. It is not merely following meals that we give thanks; it is for each and every time we “consume,” make use of, that which is provided for us. Imagine – an even greater prompt to utter praise for the things we have and what we do with them.
Soon after, recounting Moses’ need to create a second set of tablets (the Ten Commandments) following the Israelites’ episode with the golden calf, the text goes on:
And now, O Israel, what does the Lord you God demand of you? Only this: to revere the Lord your God, to walk only in His paths, to love Him, and to serve the Lord your god with all your heart and soul, keeping the Lord’s commandments and laws, which I enjoin upon you today, for your good (Deut. 10:12-13).
Only this?!?!? Well, at least this easy listing is meant for our good. Modern commentator Jeffrey Tigay suggests that “’And now’” means ‘Now, then.’ In other words, ‘Your history of rebellion shows that you lack the following qualities, to which you must dedicate yourselves in the future’” (JPS Torah Commentary – Deuteronomy, p. 107).
So how do we begin (or continue) to tackle this “mere” listing of virtues that enable us to overcome our past foibles? The answer is already given in the earlier part of the text: by always cultivating an “attitude of gratitude”, in giving thanks for what we have, our ability to use them for good, and our opportunity to share our advantage with those around us.

And now, it remains our turn. 

Friday, July 3, 2015

a thought for erev July 4th

Fireworks into nerot, a keg for Kiddush
Sheet cake flag unfurled, stripes intertwined like challah

“When in the course of human events” urged by
Vay’chulu hashamayim v’ha-araetz…

The self-evidence of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness
Finally allows for shavat vayinafash

Friday, June 26, 2015

A wider tent

Mah tovu ohalekha ya’akov mishk’notekha yisrael
How lovely are your tents, O Jacob, your dwelling-places, O Israel!

Jewish daily morning prayer opens with these words that transformed the prophet-for-hire Balaam’s intent to curse the Israelites into an eternal blessing for the people. Recognizing and affirming the beauty and sanctity of the community and all its members is a standard we have strived to achieve throughout the generations. It takes compassion, generosity of the spirit and a true concern for our fellow human to overcome those obstacles – racism, misogyny, bias of all types – that have diminished some in the eyes of others.
This morning, we were woken to the news that the Supreme Court, ruling regarding same sex marriage, had relied upon upholding the 14th Amendment (which asserts equal protection under the law) to safeguard marriage equality. In closing the majority opinion, Justice Kennedy wrote these words, which are already receiving much-due attention for their content and eloquence:
No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.
In recent memory I don’t think read a more “Jewish” plea for social justice and civil rights than these words today. Yes, ours remains a culture that is challenged by a range of social ills from poverty and homelessness to inequality of pay. Today’s decision by the Supreme Court renews hope that our society still has what it takes to mend the world’s brokenness, and that the “American dream” is within reach of all.
 

Mah tovu – today our tent got a little wider, and a little more beautiful.

Friday, June 19, 2015

Nuances of rebellion

This week’s Torah portion, Korach, is customarily seen to illustrate a paradigmatic example of rebellion against authority. In it, Korach and his followers apparently rise up against Moses’ leadership, and question his right to lead the people. At the outset they suggest that Moses is no more suited to hold that station than anyone else in the community, as all of them are holy, and God is among them (emphasis mine). Throughout the ages there have been discussions of this incident: Korach’s jealousy of his cousin Moses; whether Korach’s perspective is worth consideration; how to squelch such tumult; Moses’ response(s); and so on…one’s understanding of these issues is based upon the idea that Korach and his followers present themselves in a defiant stance. Is it possible that the text offers different possibilities? Of course, if we but explore the wording itself, paying particular attention to the verbs in use.
In the standard JPS translation (among the most widely used Jewish versions) we read:
Now Korah, son of Izhar son of Kohath son of Levi, betook himself, along with Dathan and Abiram sons of Eliab, and On son of Peleth – descendants of Reuben – to rise up against Moses, together with two hundred fifty representatives of the Israelites…
Here, the main protagonist is clearly Korach, who takes himself (and the others along the way) in order to challenge Moses. This wording opens a chapter of rebellion. We find a difference in both focus and intent in the classic Soncino Pentateuch and Haftorahs, edited by Dr. JH Hertz – likely the leading English language Torah used for the majority of the 20th century:
Now Korah, the son of Izhar, the son of Kohath, the son of Levi, with Dathan and Abiram, the sons of Eliab, and On, the son of Peleth, sons of Reuben, took men; and they rose up in the face of Moses, with certain of the children of Israel, two hundred and fifty men…
In this version Korach is not entirely singled out in the leading role; he and the other named character “take men” (as opposed to betook himself”) in order to present themselves unto Moses. Perhaps, as they make their case, it is to relieve Moses of the overwhelming burden of managing the Israelites – just as his father-in-law Jethro had done immediately prior to receiving the Ten Commandments. A thought to ponder.
Robert Alter, in his masterful The Five Books of Moses, offers another possibility, retaining the ambiguity of the original Hebrew:
And Korah son of Izhar son of Kohath son of Levi, and Dathan and Abiram sons of Eliab and On son of Peleth sons of Reuben, took up, and they rose before Moses, and two hundred fifty men of the Israelites…and they assembled against Moses…
In his commentary, Alter notes that “took up” is vague at best; the common completion of the phrase, “took up men,” is merely *understood* – whereas it can also easily be read to mean that he (indicating Korach, as Alter points out that the verb is singular, referring mainly to him) “took it upon himself” or “steeled himself up” and therefore “rebelled.”
Finally I would include the rendition offered by Everett Fox in his groundbreaking Five Books of Moses (yes, we aren’t that innovative when it comes to titles). His work is fascinating because of his very particular attention to idiom, and the preservation of Hebrew words and phrases in the text for their specific merit/meaning. Fox advances:
Now there betook himself Korah son of Yitzhar son of Kehat son of Levi, and Dathan and Aviram the sons of Eliav and On son of Pelet the sons of Reuven – to rise up before Moshe with men-of-stature from the Children of Israel, 250, leaders of the community…
Again in this instance, Fox’s account – while suggesting that Korach’s own plan to confront Moses is his alone – allows for the possibility that the entire episode is not necessarily rebellious in nature from the outset. This gathering of men of stature could be viewed as a demonstration of the importance of what they had to say to Moses – perhaps insubordinate indeed and yet maybe something else – which remains important to consider.
So this is often true for the situations we meet, when we are faced by others. If we jump to conclusions about their intentions from the outset, without (patiently) weighing additional possibilities, the only expected outcome can be devastating conflict – usually difficult to overcome. Yet not every encounter needs to be a challenge, not every interaction a trial. We have it within us to express greater measures of compassion, kindness and generosity toward one another – which might yet mend the world.


Friday, June 5, 2015

More than enough

True contentment is an elusive feat for us to achieve. Shouldn’t it be enough to have a loving family, a safe roof over our heads, and the opportunity to wake up every day and do something of worth and value with my life? The answer is – certainly. However, it’s hard to keep these things in mind all the time. It can be easy to fall back on thinking about those issues of dissatisfaction or incompleteness. We all struggle with overcoming this notion of emptiness. The ancient Rabbis offered timeless wisdom. They taught us, “Who is rich? [It is] the person who is content with what he [or she] has” (Pirkei Avot 4:1). When we remember this simple formula, when we overcome our penchant to be *miton’nim*, “complainers,” we too can be content with our lot.


Wishing a Shabbat of contentment, and peace...