Saturday, December 31, 2016

Light it up! 2017

The last candles of Hanukkah 5777 gutter (my least favorite time of the entire year) - also bringing 2016 to a close. 

It's been a difficult (ok, perhaps "shitty" is a better term) year in so many ways - and yet, also dotted with great blessings and achievements as well. V has flourished; Ben is looking forward to attending his first choice college. We're all basically healthy. 

The music plays on...time to figure out what I want to do if/when I grow up. 

Obla di obla da....

Wishing your and yours health, happiness, fulfillment and peace.

Happy New Year 2017!!!

Monday, December 26, 2016

Those who fill us with light

This past week marks the 30th (!) yahrzeit since the passing of my grandmother, Mary Siroka. Hard to believe how much time has gone. I was a sophomore in college (at American University, Harvard on the Potomac :) and was on winter break. Mom, Dad, Eliot and I were vacationing in Hawaii when we got the call, the morning of the day before the first eve of the holiday. People plan, God laughs. Dad quickly re-arranged our travel plans so we could get to New York for the funeral, and be with our extended family. Change of pace indeed. We flew through LAX (where Dad insisted on purchasing me a t-shirt with Fred and Barney doing the hula) and arrived at JFK on a blustery cold morning (the warmest item of clothing I had with me was an AU sweatshirt, needless to say no appropriate outfit for the service). Getting settled, Dad and I hustled out to Alexander's to get me a jacket and tie, etc.

The funeral itself has an indelible place in my mind: it may have been the last time that all 15 of grandma's grandchildren were together in the same place. I'll never forget spending those first few eves of that Hanukkah centered at my uncle Harold and aunt Shirley's house - Dad and his siblings and cousins recounting stories, the aunts and uncles bragging about us kids, and even seeing the Japanese flag Harold had captured in the Pacific during the war. Tears, laughter, camaraderie, love....a touching festival of light.

Three decades have passed – all my aunts and uncles, and a couple cousins, are gone now too. The world has changed so much, yet its basic challenges and rewards endure. My life is so very different from when I was 19 for sure – yet I remain greatly the same. Time marches on, making sacred memories all the more profound.

This year, as we celebrate Hanukkah - be mindful of those in your life (living and long gone) who fill you with light. 

CHAG URIM SAMEYACH - wishing you a happy, healthy, love-filled Hanukkah.

Thursday, December 15, 2016

#BillofRights225

Today marks the 225th anniversary of the Bill of Rights – that is, it was on this date in 1791 that Virginia became the 10th of 14 states to ratify the first ten amendments to the Constitution (for a complete text, go to https://www.archives.gov/founding-docs/bill-of-rights-transcript). For well over two centuries, these foundational concepts of American democracy have been the source of discussion, debate, inspiration and argumentation regarding nearly every aspect of civil liberty. To this day, the Bill of Rights fosters difference in interpretation, and therefore in enactment of policy and procedure. Yet today, it appears these sacred values – which were meant to add to and expand our understanding of how civilized, democratic society operates – are under attack like never before. Beyond scrutiny of the text, beyond articulate if even biased justification of its nuances, we now have masses of our people who would abuse the Amendments for political posturing – or worse, neglect these rights out of intentional prejudice or sheer ignorance. Saddest of all, this movement is fronted by the President-elect, a person singularly stunted in his grasp of history and fact.
What strikes me as so odd is a growing voice over the last year that contradicts the Bill of Rights itself: the seeming zeal, among some, to defend the public reverence for the Ten Commandments, and comfort in invoking those values as a tool in the governmental arena 
The First Amendment states that Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof (the Establishment Clause), which not only protects individuals and groups in practicing (or not practicing) as they wish, it also prevents the imposition of any one’s respective personal religious vantage point over another in political affairs. Ironic that when this is violated, as it has been over the years, it often accompanies abuse of the very next phrase, or abridging the freedom of speech – as its too common in our history, and that of the Western world, that zealots attempt to prove their position by silencing any opposition.
I am a lifelong liberal Jew, which means I have been educated and encouraged to engage in thoughtful, often difficult navigation between “tradition” and “innovation” in a rich complex religious system. Like the Founders, this has informed my worldview. More so, I am a lifelong political progressive, which demands a similar, if not even more vexing responsibility to understand a dynamism between my personal outlook (including religion) and my place as an actor in an American society that is (yet still) free and requires my participation. I for one fully “get” that no matter how strongly certain religious values are ingrained in me, they are not right for everybody (anybody?) else. Classically, my right to believe in anything, or uphold a position about anything, ends – respectfully – where another person’s begins.

One hope I maintain as this crazed political season endures: that the tumultuous campaign and its aftermath will motivate people to return to their roots – their elementary scholastic roots – and embrace a conscientious regard for our founding documents, and the awe they should inspire about the prospects of our shared humanity. 

(By the way - don't you think there's a reason we protect even the very paper its written on? Just sayin'...)